Well,that's pretty much the same attitude here these days. Divorces are a regular occurence, sometimes for the silliest of reasons. I really don't think anyone under the age of 25 should get married. Before that you're still growing up and changing so much.
The thing is.........if people don't realize that marriage (next to having children) is the BIGGEST and MOST important decision you will ever make, then what does that say about people today?
That everything is cheap? Disposable?
If you go into a marriage thinking to yourself "I CAN ALWAYS GET A DIVORCE" then you shouldn't get married! Period. It's that black and white. The only time a person should get married is when they really and truly believe that they will be with the other person forever. Again....it's the "You and Me against the world" bit.
Don't get me wrong.........some marriages should be ended. Sometimes people simply are miserable together and it's not fair to either person to stay married under those circumstances. Everyone deserves happiness in their lives. Thing is....people should ask themselves...."will I be better off, happier, more settled, content" without this person???? Or "will it really not change the truth about my own life and who I am". People can regain a spark if they both work hard at it and want it.
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Every time you don't follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness. ~~~~Shakti Gawain~~~~
I completelly agree with you. This is sometimes HARD WORK. In slovakia we had in pas a few divorces only, becaise of strong impact of Catholic religion here, but now, it appears to be a trendy style - to be divorced. People are dissapointed by the "normal" life, they are missing the love, passion, time spended together. BUT if you are able to do compromises, and take your partner as he is, and always keep the promise you gave, this works. O Bon, maybe you can open a new subdivision here - how to stay married and I have to open medical chat to solve health problems. LOL. You just said very important thing - Philip is my best friend. jenn
The truth is....both happiness and sex in a marriage goes in waves/cycles. People are constantly changing and growing and the demands on a couple and on people individually take a toll.
So you keep scrapping yourself and the marriage together and go with the flow. It's like that song "You and Me against the world". As long as the two of you are standing firm together and striving for similiar things, I think a marriage can work. And that's the keyword....Marriage is WORK. sometimes very HARD WORK!
If you go into it starry eyed and believing everything is going to be wonderful and that the passion and love will never change, you're fooling yourself. Emotions/Passions/Needs ....they all ebb and flow.
From my own personal experience it's the respect that a couple has for each other and the laughter that they share that get's them thru the rough times. First and foremost, you'd better be friends with each other and from day one.
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Every time you don't follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness. ~~~~Shakti Gawain~~~~
Dear Bonnie, I am glad, I am not alone with this "peculiar" problem. LOL. Maybe my poste was taken wrong way, everything is all right wit our X rated life. We made a decision to have a also private time for us, just to switch of from the mummy and daddy roles, and from the proff duties, because several years ago, when boys were younger, this was miserable about "US" you know what I mean. But now it gets better. We have just to eject some disturbing events from the bed room - the kids, our pets, the books, famill problems, my notebook and NIC as well.
I figured out that love could have a lot of faces. NIC sorry dear, I have to tell that my Philip is the best thing that could happen to me, i said it before, my housband is the better part of me, he made me the woman who I am. enough, this is NIC forum. love jenn
You girls are so funny... but from your reports, it looks like short marriages work better (just kidding you)... or keeping single (just teasing you, LOL)
Girl....you don't have to explain to me. I've hit the quarter century mark in the marriage department!
I'm living with a room-mate at this point, not a hot stud.... BUT.....about every other year or so....he and I do attempt to find that old "black magic called love" feeling and try to run off for one night at some hotel where I make the man role play and pretend we're new lovers.
It helps. Ya just got to make sure you leave the kids and animals at home. They sorta put a damper on the moaning and screaming and furniture falling over as you rip off each other's clothes! LOL!
Oh....and be careful you don't break an ankle.......
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Every time you don't follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness. ~~~~Shakti Gawain~~~~
Well Bonnie, thanks for a warrning, the nearest man is my housband and you may be sure that after 16 years of marriadge the only thing what we preffere in bed is undisturbed sleep. LOL. And wearing ma pajama - the wild sex is something like a holly gral. And heart attack? Whatever for NIC. LOL jenn.
P.S. To post from my bed is the only possibility to chatch up with you guys. I am ot sure about the precise time shift, but when you are awake, I am aslep. sooooooooo.
the problem is that I used to post here during my morning coffe procedure. ANd then I have to work: It is impossible after such pictures. Then I become dangerous for my patients and confused professor for my students. LOL. ANyway - next week I will have internec connection in my flat, so I will post from ym bed, and then please - pictures of any situation, position, mood, degree of se--- atractiveness are invited. love jenn
Ahhh........truly I understand! I can easily see how you were discombobulated after looking at that lovely pic! All rational thoughts just sorta fly out the window at times like that, don't they???
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Every time you don't follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness. ~~~~Shakti Gawain~~~~
Oh of course I don't Bonnie ,thanks for making it bigger And no, there is only one picture,sorry for the double post,I think I did it because I was so impressed after look at that sexy stud muffin LOL!
